Marriage is a journey—not just a moment. And like any meaningful journey, it requires a map: a vision of where you want to go together. Setting marriage goals isn’t just about planning; it’s about partnering with God to create a life full of purpose, joy, and growth.
Too often couples drift, caught up in daily life and missing the bigger picture. But when you intentionally set goals as a couple, you build unity, deepen intimacy, and prepare to face life’s challenges hand in hand.
Why Set Marriage Goals?
Goal-setting gives your marriage direction. It turns vague hopes into concrete plans and helps you prioritize what matters most—whether that’s growing spiritually, nurturing your family, or pursuing dreams together. As Amos 3:3 asks, “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” Setting goals ensures you’re walking the same path.
How to Set Your Marriage Goals:
1. Pray Together First
Invite God into your vision. Ask Him to guide your hearts and align your dreams. Matthew 18:20 promises, “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Your shared goals are strongest when rooted in faith.
2. Reflect on Your Values and Priorities
What do you both value most? Family, faith, service, adventure, stability? Identifying your core values helps shape goals that honor your true selves and God’s purpose.
3. Create Short-Term and Long-Term Goals
Set realistic and inspiring goals. Short-term might include weekly date nights or budgeting together, while long-term could be home ownership, parenting approaches, or ministry involvement. Celebrate progress along the way.
4. Communicate Openly and Often
Goals evolve, and life throws curveballs. Make regular check-ins a habit to adjust, encourage, and reaffirm your shared vision.
5. Support Each Other’s Individual Dreams
Your marriage is a partnership where both thrive. Celebrate personal goals too—they strengthen your collective future.
The Power of a Shared Vision
When you set marriage goals, you create a compass that guides your journey through good times and storms. It builds teamwork and trust, and reminds you that your marriage is a sacred covenant with God at the center.
Remember, a successful marriage isn’t just about “making it work” — it’s about flourishing together in love and faith.
Reflection Question:
What one goal can you and your spouse set today that brings you closer to your Godly vision for marriage?