“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” – Proverbs 18:21
Marriage is a sacred union designed by God, meant to reflect His love, grace, and faithfulness. Yet, in the busyness of life, it’s easy to fall into the habit of pointing out flaws, criticizing, or focusing on what’s wrong rather than what’s right. But what if we changed our approach? What if we used our words to speak life into our marriage?
The Power of Words in Marriage
Words have incredible power. They can build up or tear down, heal or wound, encourage or discourage. The way we speak to our spouse directly impacts the emotional and spiritual atmosphere of our home.
Think about it—when was the last time you intentionally affirmed your spouse? When did you last remind them how much you appreciate, love, and admire them? Too often, we assume our partner already knows how we feel, but unspoken love can sometimes feel like no love at all.
Choosing to Speak Life
Speaking life over your marriage means making a conscious effort to use words that uplift, encourage, and strengthen your relationship. Here’s how:
1. Speak Positive Affirmations Over Your Spouse
Instead of focusing on what your spouse isn’t doing right, highlight what they are doing well. Tell them:
✅ “I love how hard you work for our family.”
✅ “I appreciate the way you support me.”
✅ “You are an amazing spouse, and I’m grateful for you.”
2. Pray Over Your Marriage
Prayer is one of the most powerful ways to speak life over your marriage. Instead of complaining about your spouse’s weaknesses, bring them before God and ask Him to bless your marriage. Pray:
🙏 "Lord, help us to love each other the way You love us."
🙏 "God, give us patience and understanding in our communication."
3. Encourage Instead of Criticize
When disagreements arise, it’s easy to default to criticism, but encouragement is far more effective. Instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” try saying, “I appreciate when you take time to hear my heart.” Small shifts in wording can change the entire tone of your marriage.
4. Declare God’s Promises Over Your Marriage
God has amazing plans for your marriage, and His Word is filled with promises of love, unity, and strength. Declare:
“We will grow stronger together.”
“Our love will stand the test of time.”
“God is at the center of our marriage.”
Speak Life, See Change
The more you speak life, the more life will flow into your marriage. Words set the tone for the relationship you desire. Make it a habit to bless your spouse with affirming words daily, and watch how love, peace, and joy begin to flourish in your home.
Start today. Speak life. Your marriage will thank you.